Oprah’s SuperSoul Conversations Podcast – Thich Nhat Hanh: How to Listen with Compassion. You can also click here to listen.
I went seeking for wise words after encountering a difficult situation with someone I would say I love or care about, and I stumbled upon this splendid information. This was just what I really needed during this time. The points are below if you have no patience to listen straight from his mouth…lol.
- Follow your passion
- With practice we can always remain alive in the present moment.
- Be grateful for what we have in the present.
- When encountering a challenge:
- Do mindful breathing
- Recognize the feeling
- Recognize the situation
- Doing these things help us not to be overwhelmed by the negative feeling like fear or anxiety.
- Your pain and anxiety is like a baby; you have to take care of it.
- You have to go back to yourself and recognize the suffering in you.
- Going back to your mindfulness and consciousness, you understand the roots the nature of the ill-being and you know the way to transform it.
- People sacrifice the present for the future, but life is valuable only in the present moment.
- If the present has peace and joy and happiness, the future will too.
- Matthew 6:34 “Don’t worry about tomorrow, tomorrow will take care of itself”.
- Deep listening helps the speaker relieve their suffering.
- Listen with one purpose.
- Help him or her (the speaker) to empty his or her heart
- If you want to help him or her with their perspective (if their perspective is wrong), wait for another time.
- Compassionate listening is for him or her to suffer less by letting it out.
- One hour of compassionate listening can bring transformation and healing
- 4 Mantras to live by:
- Darling I am here for you. Offer him or her with your presence. You are not preoccupied with the past or the future.
- Darling I know you are there, and I am so happy. Because you are truly there you recognize the presence of your loved one as something very precious. To be loved it to be recognized as existing.
- Darling I know you suffer, that is why I’m here for you.
- Darling I suffer. I’m trying my best to practice. Please help me.
- Mantra #4 is something I personally need to work on. I’m use to taking care of just about everything on my own, so asking for help doesn’t come easily. I would say I use it sparingly.
- Matthew 6:34. Staying in the present. Goals are obviously important, but I see the value in writing them down in a clear manner then focusing on living in the present. Baby steps are an important part in mitigating the feeling of being overwhelmed.
- Although I have learned to listen and push others to dig deeper about their personal thoughts rather than giving my personal advice, I see the value in deep listening. I hate seeing others suffer, but I see the benefit in deep listening and waiting to give advice. Venting and allowing time to process is a natural process.
I’m interesting in hearing other perspectives on this. Feel free to comment.